FATHERHOOD... what does it mean? Published June 14, 2010 325th Medical Group TYNDALL AIR FORCE BASE, Fla. -- Does having a good job and providing food, clothing and shelter for my family mean · working overtime · too tired to do anything when I get home · don't know when my child's birthday is OR · enjoying my job and have time to enjoy my family · making enough money to buy essentials · living in a safe neighborhood Does doing a good job raising my children mean · my child does exactly what I tell him...or else · he gets good grades...or else · speak when spoken to...or else OR · building relationship with my child by talking WITH him · be firm, consistent, set boundaries, teach appropriate behavior · teach my child the value of work, play, loving someone else What do kids need most in a dad? Can you name three things your father gave you? What three things would you want from a father? Father's Day is not just a day to relax or receive presents. It is a day to reflect on how your children see you as a dad. If you want to be the best dad, look at the time you spend with your children. What activities do you do together? Read to your child. It is simple, relaxing, educational and it's free! Roll or toss a ball, sing, march around, act silly, all of which will form good memories. Tired, get angry or snap easily? Learn how to defuse that anger. Have realistic expectations. Make sure you don't bring your frustrations home from the office. Ultimately, you make yourself the dad your children see. Is it easy? Not always. If you need help formulating your vision of fatherhood, see a professional at the New Parent Support Program at the Life Skills Support Clinic. Remember, you can be the dad YOU want to be. Now you can enjoy the burned breakfast and ugly tie. Happy Father's Day!